Sunday, November 4, 2007

UNFORGETTABLE!!

The prompt at Writer's island is Unforgettable...Certain words bring with them instant associations and the word, 'UNFORGETTABLE' had many memories attached to it. This certainly topped the list... and this one's for all those wonderful mothers out there...
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The rebirth...



You carry a life in you for nine months, you feel and see it growing from this little to this big...you dance to the lil one's tunes by eating strange stuff (have never eaten so many odd things in my life)...

You spend the better half of the pregnancy looking like a bloated balloon (oldies would tell me that i would have a boy because i looked awful!!!)A most trying time for the hubby...

You become paranoid by all the knowledge you suddenly gather...you worry about the new life within you...you rush to the hospital , convinced each time that there is something wrong...

You see your belly grow and wonder how you will ever deliver... then one midnight, the pain starts, well before the due date and your mom panics because the contingency plans did not include this and you panic because you are not ready...

You think uncharitably of your husband (because he does not have to go through this) who is on some flight somewhere trying to reach Bangalore by some means...

You reach the hospital and hate what follows...In the delivery room, you look at all the cold-looking equipment, it's too late for an epidural, you are terrified of pain and are totally convinced that you are going to die...

You get up and tell your mother, let's go back, i can't do this...and she looks at you worried that you've chosen the wrong moment to turn mad...

The nurses are unforgivably chirpy and you feel like socking them...

There is a moment of tension because the cord is around his neck and the doctor is worried...

Then you hear THE cry and you finally get to see that little life...and the tears just flow...The funny thing, the pain just vanishes and a different feeling takes over...

And then you look at those tiny fingers and toes, the little mouth, the trusting eyes, the reddened face, you hold him like you've been a mother all your life and you finally look at the little one who has put you under his spell even before he was born!!

Definitely THIS moment, when i looked at my baby for the first time, is the most unforgettable moment of my life...the relief, the happiness, the awe, the wonder...the feeling's indescribable, its unforgettable...

I do remember the post birth scene, my elated husband (he made it just in time!) and parents, happy relatives, the buzz around me which included discussions on his color, his snub nose, his forehead, his hair, and a lot of advice...and I had this dazed,smug, and happy grin throughout...

- dazed because I could not believe that I had finally graduated to being a 'mother' and smug because i felt that I had just passed my most difficult test...and happy because i finally had my baby in my arms and he was beautiful,snub nose and all and he had a perfect Apgar score ...

He was perfect..and i was alive...what more could i ask for? ...

44 comments:

Talk to the hand said...

I think I cried more when my neice was born(I was temporarily filling in for my brother in the labour room ) than when Miki was. But mine was a caesar and by the time the baby was out, I remember I could'nt stop giggling... I doubt it was the nitrous oxide though .

But 18hrs later I remember looking at Miki for the first time and thinking ' wow! love must really be blind' coz moments earlier my dad had told me I had the most beautiful baby girl in the whole world :)

Preethi said...

Good one.. really touching... coicidence I wrote a birth story too.. just now!! read that when you have some time... so contrasting.. I neither was dazed nor smug, just relieved!! but yeah what an experience!!

Prats said...

oh.....I know that feeling...so divine I would say, nothing could compare. U bet it should be an unforgettable moment.

**The nurses are unforgivably chirpy and you feel like socking them...** LOL wow!!! you're really polite. I learnt all my abuses in that cold, room, with those masked faces hovering over me...

dame's diary said...

Aww nice birth story....

Compassion Unlimitted said...

HI
Pregnancy and motherhood..you girls
are a part of CREATORS MIRACLE..lucky you..however hard we try ,we will never understand that !
TC
CU

keith hillman said...

The whole things a mystery to me! Lovely story though.

Thinking aloud said...

@ madhu...
really? different reactions to the same experience...i'm still surprised how i went thru this not once but twice...but it was worth it...:)

@ preethi...
yeah...what an experience!!! just left a comment on ur blog too

@ prats...
LOL...i was very mean to them and boy... I really had to make it up to them later....

@ DD
Thank u, those who know me really wonder how i had a 'normal' delivery....

@ CU...
heh...teh grass is always greener on the other side...try puking out every day of teh month...r we really the lucky ones;)

@ keith...
Thank you for reading it thru :)

Raghu said...

I can 'guess' about how you must have felt as a mother!

This must be an unforgettable moment not just for the mother but for everyone in the family.

I still remember how excited I was when 6 months ago when my niece was born. I hardly allowed any one else to hold her.. not even her dad! :P

Infact I loved this doll so much, that I wished they left her with me in Bangalore when my sister moved to the States! :)

Rambler said...

you know this is something which men would never get to experience in real life.
I am sure it is the most unforgettable event in any woman's life. And I guess even for your husband, I am sure he cannot forget this.

btw, when I first looked at the url I was wondering what it meant, later realized that its "alochane", nice idea for the blog title.

Nice to find fellow kannada blogger :)..

Ps said...

I could so relate to this post.This was exactly what i felt too when mine were born.
Truly unforgettable.

Sandhya said...

I hve heard everytime that females are having an immense power. Seriouly sometimes, i raise a eyebrow on this fact.

But whenever i heard the stories of a babyborn, at a time i just want to hats off d spirit of a woman.

UL said...

Congratulations...that was wonderful. Beautifully described, I never did experience labor - my daughter wanted to just arrive early :) - but the feelings of becoming a mom are Universal, I suppose, the trasformation happens overnight. And you have described the journey beautifully. Thanks for stopping by.

Hedwyg said...

Very nice! And I giggled and smiled in sympathy with all the early stuff. Earthy and gritty and real. Well done!

Peace,
Hedwyg

gautami tripathy said...

A wonderful post about an incredible experience!

Terri said...

What beautiful writing of a truly unforgettable event. 43 years later...you instantly brought me back to my own experience as a first time mom. Well done.

Fuzzylogic said...

Wow!now that I'm a mom myself I can relate to each and every word and emotion you just described. It's an incredible journey. Such a touching post!

Gillian @ Indigo Blue said...

I agree!
Childbirth rocks. The two best things I ever did.
xo
Gillian

tumblewords said...

Nicely written memories. A lovely journey.

c e e d y said...

hey thanks for visitng the blog
great post - motherhood is probably the most wonderful event in a womans life....and probably all those pains and fustrations of the process are worth it - like you mentioned in your last line.

Hip Grandma said...

\He was perfect..and i was alive...what more could i ask for? .../
How very true!Congrats and Happy Diwali to you and yours1

WhatsInAName said...

You have put everything so beautifully. Its a great feeling .... when you realise that you are a "mother" now!
Very nice post!

paisley said...

don't you just have to stop and wonder how the rest of the world is possibly going along with its daily life,, and not as aware of life as you are at that very moment in time??????

Joy said...

I am sure I wrote a comment yesterday but I don't see it!

Been there, felt that. My daughter was born in the evening. I was so excited/surprised that I am "mother" that I could not sleep in the night. Finally, I brought her to my room from the nursery at around 3:00 am. I was lost in my own world gazing at her till she started crying and reality sinked in!

Just Jen said...

Absolutely beautiful and unforgettable. I remember every detail to and this part:
The nurses are unforgivably chirpy and you feel like socking them...

Its so true I laughed out loud at reading it! I was constantly asking, do you have kids yet? LOL Thanks for sharing!

Thinking aloud said...

@ raghu,
why 'guess', raghu? time to be a dad and find out!!!

@ rambler,
oh yes, my hubby mad sure he was there with me thruout my second delivery and i think thatwas very brave of him...

and i'm from mangalore, actually, we speak TULU...heard of it?

@ ps,
:) and to think i said never again and landed up in the labor room a second time...
thanks, preeti...

Thinking aloud said...

@ sandhya,
thanks, and where's my bravery award? keep coming...

@ UL,
as u said the feeling of becoming a mother is universal and i think pain gives you the strngth you never knew you had...hats off to you!!!

@ hedwyg,
thank you, this piece just wrote itself...thanks for dropping by...

@ gautami,
thank you...the feelings of 'just' becoming a mother IS overwhelming...

@ terri...
thank you so much...to me, this natural process is such a miracle...

Thinking aloud said...

@fuzzylogic,
isn't it...i think the guys really missed out on this one ;)

@ gillian,
oh yes, i second that wholeheartedly...

@ tumble words...
thank you sue, keep dropping by...

@ ceedy,
you said it, the joy of bringing a new life into this world is unforgettable...

@ hipgrandma...
thank you... though i think i was not the 'ideal'patient ...both during the pregnancy and later...

happy deepavali to you and your family too!

@WIAN,
thank you...

@ paisley...
that was so baeutifully said...isn't it strange that something so intense is such a common event?

@ joy...
sorry abut your earlier comment...i'm actually out of s'pore at the moment, on a holiday...so have been bit erratic in chking my blogs...but i think i'm truly addicted to blogging 'cos i've managed by hook and by crook, to see al the beautiful messages...

and yes...the euphoria lasted exactly as soon as he decided to test those vocal cords...

and... i love the name 'joy'...radiates so much positivity!!!

@ ustjen...
hee..hee...i gave the nurses a hard time...i knew somebody would understand ;)

Thinking aloud said...

sorry for the spelling blunders...but as said, am out of town and elated to find a place where i could check my mail ...

Happy Deepavali to everyone...

Magdalen Islands said...

Thanks for 'thinking outloud' because I forgot about that unforgettable moment.

Fuzzylogic said...

Happy Deepavali to you and your family!

AnnieElf said...

The single most wonderful and unforgettable moment for any woman. I remember every single moment like it was yesterday.

Aarthi said...

I admire all mum's not just for bearing the pain but surviving n struggling even after you think you are gonna die....hmmm hats off!!

indicaspecies said...

Miracle happens every time a new baby is born. Lovely posting.

Thinking aloud said...

@ magdalen islands...
thank you, i guess there all sorts of moments - happy and sad...

@ Fuzzy...
hope u had a great deepavali :)

@ annieelf...
oh thank you :) ...

@ aarthi..
**bows down*** thank you...now the only thing i need is an award...

@ indicaspecies..
you are so right...and thank you...

UL said...

Hey there, I tagged you at my site, hope you wont mind, you dont have to play, no pressure, thought it would be fun though, Thanks.

Vinesh said...

wow - very nicely written!
haven't met a single mom who regretted it!

Thinking aloud said...

@ UL,
of course i'll do it, my pleasure...and i agree, it would be fun...

@ vinesh...
hey..thanks...back from the US of A?

Tys on Ice said...

vinesh : mine.

hey, nice post...eventhough as a father, just becoz biology and nature teamed against us (iam not complaining), we are kinda kept outside this whole experience...

i wonder if theres atleast one woman who wonders, whts going thru his head...u wanna know? actually if his wife is safe...thats it...

Thinking aloud said...

@ tys...
awww...the last line...u've earned urself a lot of female fans :)and i did wonder but not at the time of the delivery..

in fact my hubby was present during the 2nd birth (no, he didn't faint) and he feels he came closest to the experience then, and yes to see me 'labor' did make him very helpless 'cos he couldn't do anything about it and i remember him being there 24 hours with me inspite of the support sytem i had...so that's on record now...;)

...:) when is the D-day?

Smita said...

very well written...when delivering D and A, pramod used all his coaching skills he learnt in the birthing class only to hear me say shut up...anyway..I remember D come out with her eyes wide open looking all around and 7 min later little A comes out fast asleep.I remember waiting for the apgar score, hoping and praying all was well..and yes it was..now I look at them 3 years later and wonder at the miracle of babies

Thinking aloud said...

@ smita...
who better than u and pramod would know the feeling :)and twin babies at that...

yes, i could believe that of D..i remember her amused smile with all te attention showered on her and A's ever-bemused expression is priceless...

wish i could see them often...:(

"SunShine" said...

@Suma : Oh God !! you made it look so glamorous :)
I am sure it is most unforttable thing for a woman !!

Neera said...

dazed, smug and happy indeed! very beautifully written :)

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